I Kink, Therefore I Am: The Art of Liberating Desire

Life is a Festival #119: Cat Meyer

Happy Valentine's Day my fellow travelers! In honor of the Day of Love, we’re diving into the wonderful world of BDSM with Dr. Cat Meyer, a specialist on embodied sexuality.

Our exploration begins with Cat’s struggles with self acceptance and libido before she discovered kink in her early twenties. After briefly discussing styles of play, we jump right into why BDSM is a path not only to pleasure and surrender but to healing and growth. Cat explains how to create a safe container and the alchemizing effect of polarity in both the kink and tantra communities. We touch on Miss Jaiya’s erotic blueprint before sharing a few kink archetypes. We close with consideration of kink mishaps, how to vet potential partners, and why aftercare is indispensable regardless of how you like to play.

Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex, trauma, and ketamine-assisted therapy (KAP), author, yoga teacher, and international speaker dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies.  She is the host of podcasts Eat Play Sex and Erotically Wasted and the founder of SexLoveYoga.com, an online platform for education and programs on relationships, sexuality, and embodiment. 

Whether you’re a shy neophyte or a kinky little rockstar, this episode will have something for you to help use desire to expand the width of you being. Enjoy!

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Timestamps

  • :06 - When Cat had zero libido

  • :12 - Styles of BDSM

  • :24 - The kinky road to surrender

  • :34 - Creating a safe container

  • :42 - Kink archetypes and creating polarity

  • :54 - Kinky mistakes and mishaps

  • :59 - Aftercare is indispensable

  • 1:07 - Safe, sane and consensual kink is healing



Graphics Designed by Andy McErlean

Audio Engineering by Trevor Coulter

Theme song ““Peculiar Colors” [Manjumasi]“ by dj atish